Updated: Mar 14
Before I had my first child, and before we were married, my husband and I would take it in turns once per month to arrange a date night with a difference. We did everything from going to watch comedians to pottery making. It was absolutely brilliant! Not only did it give us something to look forward to, but it also made us think about each other and consider what the other might like to do. Those close to us knew about our date night with a difference, it was even mentioned in the best man's wedding speech!
But as anyone who has had children knows, all that quickly goes out of the window. You don't want to leave your child with a sitter for the first so many months of their lives and even when you do, you're worried to death and itching to get home. Sometimes you might even skip the opportunity of a date night in favour of an early night! But keeping the romance alive in a marriage is something I think is so important.
Too often we can learn to exist with one another. We become so familiar with our other half they almost become part of the furniture and without adding something out of the norm to your relationship, you can quickly stop appreciating one another. I'm the cook of the house, my husband would never cook the dinner unless I asked him to. We've fallen into stereotypical roles. I cook and clean, he puts nails in the walls. But after a while I felt like I never got a break. It was always me cooking, cleaning, folding the laundry, sorting the kids out etc. etc. I was crying out to be wined and dined!
That's when we came up with Thursday night date night. I swear this is the favourite night of the week. I absolutely look forward to it and I always feel so much closer to my husband afterwards. It goes like this, every Thursday my husband cooks us a meal after the boys have gone to bed or while they are upstairs watching tv. There's candles, music and wine. I get to chill out on the sofa for that one night a week, knowing I don't have to cook or wash up. It's heaven! Food tastes so much better when someone else cooks doesn't it? My husband is actually a really good cook so I'm very lucky. We talk during the meal like you would in a restaurant and after the meal we retire to the sofa and talk some more. It's the one night of the week we really catch up and just immerse ourselves into one another's world.
It's as simple as that. Whoever is the main cook in your household each week should have one night where you take a break and the other half cooks. This is an inexpensive way to keep the marriage alive and to remind one another why you fell in love in the first place. Give it a try and let me know in the comments how it went! Keep it up too. This is a once a week promise to one another. Trust me, you'll look forward to it.